19
Dec/08
1

go your own way

This is Malcolm Gladwell (The Tipping Point, Outliers) discussing the band Fleetwood Mac’s story as an illustration of the often very long time it takes to truly become great at something. The video’s comment below prompted my writing that follows: (gotta love Mal’s hair…)

“I don’t doubt he is correct about the time it takes to achieve greatness. To me this isn’t a big breakthrough. The hard part for most people is finding that special thing to put their energy into. Why aren’t more authors and thinkers pointing out this aspect of success?, identifying one’s calling…because it’s only natural to devote energy to something when you believe it is really worthwhile. This is what I believe separates the top 5% from the rest (finding their niche) which isn’t easy!”  - coreydmont, from YouTube.com

As a writer, observer and participant, here is my take:

Finding your niche… discovering your destiny… uncovering your calling… this is the hardest part of being “successful.”

Knowing the what you should be pursuing has to precede the how you’re going to get there. Many people get this backwards.

A lot of well-intentioned and ambitious people exert tremendous amounts of time and effort pursuing undertakings that are wrong for them. They get so wrapped up in the doing that they don’t stop to consider if what they’re doing is what they should be doing.

The what you should be doing is that which exists at the intersection of your passion AND your talent. A calling must marry one’s interest as well as their skills. It’s that thing you do that few others can do as well or as uniquely as you do.

It’s not enough to just enjoy something; it’s not enough to be good at something… one’s true calling or destiny or life’s work HAS to contain both elements. A passion for – and a knack for – must co-exist. Passion PLUS talent produces necessary perseverance required to turn your calling into a career.

Next, this calling has to be specific and focused. No one can be good at everything… nor should you try. One must specialize and then organize. Countless hours, days, months, and even years can be saved if you really stop and consider the “what” before the “how.”

Once you know that, then do that, for as long as it takes. Maybe even for 10,000 hours over the next ten years

Real “success” is enjoying the journey doing what you’re supposed to be doing… to “Go Your Own Way” – regardless of the outcome.

©2008 Tom Leu

7
Dec/08
0

if you can’t join ‘em, beat ‘em…

Everyone’s heard the saying, “If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.”  With a sincere and slightly passive-aggressive intent, I’d like to propose the opposite for a change: If you can’t JOIN ‘em… BEAT ‘em!

Depending on the circumstances, it eventually becomes wise to stop banging your head against the wall trying to gain access into certain organizations, places, or positions.  The doors of opportunity are not always open to everyone, everywhere you go.  There comes a time when you have to go out and create your own dream job or opportunities.  They are out there, IF you are willing to go get them and do the work necessary to keep them.  It can be scary; but it’s oh so necessary.

Joining ‘em sometimes turns out to be overrated and interesting only from the outside looking in.  It often seems attractive at first glance, to be apart of something that may not actually have much real significance, value, or validity. 

Beating ‘em doesn’t necessarily have to contain a negative connotation.  It’s merely being used as an expression suggesting going out and doing things for yourself on your own terms when and where appropriate.  Don’t allow the will of others to stifle your own goals and aspirations.  Stay away from your life’s dream-stealers. They’re a cancer on the soul.

Being apart of the establishment or the “clique” is not always the best route for everyone, all of the time.  The writer of the New Testament book of Galatians suggests “Let every person carefully scrutinize and examine and test his own conduct and his own work.  He can then have the personal satisfaction and joy of doing something commendable with boastful comparison with his neighbor.”  Basically, it’s saying that it’s OK to be proud of our own good work, regardless of what others may think.

So if you can’t join ‘em, beat ‘em with your ingenuity, independence, and instinct.  Blaze your own trails and make your own rules. Make ‘em sorry they didn’t get you when the gettin’ was good. If you gotta have experience to get experience, then write your own resume by defining your purpose and building your own platform.  Dare to dream and create your destiny!