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Free for All’in

Oh how I love the days right before, and/or right after any quasi-big social or cultural happening occurs: i.e. political elections, high-profile trials, celebrity deaths, or significant sporting events for example. It’s during these times that many seemingly hidden... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 08 November 2016 | talk shiFt | No Comments   

Retire Your Representative

How often does your representative show up? > You know, that person who is merely a version of you… not the real you. > You know, the more politically-correct, diplomatic version of you who attempts to keep up with... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 07 November 2016 | Psychology, talk shiFt | No Comments   

Under A Rock?

For those who “put it out there;” those who contribute to the world, not just consume; those who have the nuts to take risks; those who refuse to live under a fucking rock their whole life… here’s some great advice from... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 03 November 2016 | Communications, talk shiFt | No Comments   

4 “Black Flag” Phrases

You know you’ve heard these phrases before… Perhaps you’ve likely said them yourself… I call them “black flag” phrases, and you should be very afraid of them… These statements are communication suicide for practitioners, though they usually don’t realize... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 02 November 2016 | Communications, Psychology, talk shiFt | No Comments   

The 5%

A lot of well-intentioned folks are afraid of truth; afraid to get honest and look at things objectively. Based on a butt-load of personal experience and a bit of psychology, my bet is that 95% of people are. I... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 31 October 2016 | Communications, Psychology, talk shiFt | No Comments   

The Realization

The realization… that your “voice” isn’t being heard. The realization… that your ideas are as important as anyone else’s. The realization… that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves. The realization… that this reality will remain until an audience is cultivated.... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 30 October 2016 | talk shiFt | No Comments   

The Loud Talker

Ah yes, the “loud-talker” in public… you know who I’m talking about… hopefully it’s not you. This is an interesting breed of apparently oblivious (though not always), self-indulgent gems who make it their mission to ensure EVERYONE within earshot... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 01 September 2016 | Communications, talk shiFt | No Comments   

Handshake Shocker

What has the world come to when common courtesy is no longer a commodity? How bad must things be when a simple handshake… an offering or gesture to politely greet another person becomes a big deal and an ordeal? In seminars... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 06 April 2015 | Communications, talk shiFt | No Comments   

Audacity of Certainty

Are you capable of being wrong? No, I mean really capable of saying “I got that wrong, I missed the boat on that one, I got some bad information, I blew that, I’m promptly removing my head from my... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 16 December 2014 | talk shiFt | 2 Comments   

The Hard Way

Pointing fingers and shirking responsibility. Defensiveness. Denial. Avoidance. Resisting change. Being self-centered vs. selfless. Taking vs. giving. Telling vs. listening. Condescension. Intolerance. Arrogance. Insensitivity. These are the paths of least resistance. The easier things to do. The most predictable... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 17 September 2014 | talk shiFt | No Comments   

Thanks, for Nothing

This entire post SHOULD be unnecessary, but unfortunately it’s not. To me, this all goes without saying… But I’m gonna say it anyway in the hopes that even just one person receives this message the way it’s intended. And that... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 09 September 2014 | talk shiFt | No Comments   

“Human Relations”… not-so-common-sense

I’ve taught a course for years at the college called “Human Relations.” The course is often misunderstood at the outset by both students AND staff because the title is so obviously deceptive. Many people zoom right on by the... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 28 August 2014 | Communications, talk shiFt | No Comments   

Tool IQ

In the very popular Tool Time series (pats self on back), I call out the nine parts of the “RPM” approach to avoid being a “tool” most of the time. Here is a self-survey to assess your potential toolness. Answer Yes... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 28 July 2014 | Communications, talk shiFt | No Comments   

Huff and Puff

While purposely rolling your eyes, squirming in your seat, huffing and puffing in apparent strong disagreement with another person’s comments, positions, or points-of-view, at least have the nuts to speak up when asked to share YOUR views. Otherwise, blow... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 13 July 2014 | Communications, talk shiFt | No Comments   

Reality is Perception

Many years ago, one of my mentors used to tell me that "the world is as you are, not as it is…" Read More »
Thomas Leu, MS | 06 April 2014 | Recovery, talk shiFt | 1 Comment   

Nice Wins!

It’s not complicated. It’s not impossible. But it is an inside job. Being “nice” is a lost art among many. Too many believe this is an outdated, unnecessary, and useless way to live. I disagree. “But you’re not always... Read More »
Tom Leu, MS | 01 April 2014 | talk shiFt | No Comments   
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