Feel the Shake
You’ve been there: obsessing about that very important meeting, or event, or opportunity that’s coming up very soon. You’re worried about it. You’re looking forward to it, but dreading it at the same time. You can feel the tension mounting the more you think about it. You feel all alone in your anxiety. As this moment fast approaches, you’re wondering: “Why the hell did I sign-up for this… ?”Through my research and in my experience, managing this stuff effectively is what separates the ‘haves’ from the ‘have-nots.’
I’ve long been fascinated by the factors that separate the famously successful from everyone else. I’ve been reading biographies, watching documentaries, and studying successful muscians, actors, entreprenuers, and artists for years to learn about their journey’s and uncover what sets them apart. A main staple of my content here at RockStarWay is to share what I learn…
Rob Lowe, one of the original 1980′s “brat-packers,” has had a long, and storied career in both film and television spanning over three decades. To me, he continues to epitomize the tenets of the RockStarWay as an enduring acting icon. His autobiography, Stories I Only Tell My Friends, includes the riviting details about his career-launching, yet arduous audition process for the Francis Ford Coppola flim, the Outsiders in 1982.
“There were days when I would’ve liked to have faced lower expectations and less pressure than learning at this particular level demanded.” ~ Rob Lowe
This story made clear to me that two things must happen for people to achieve any type of “success” personally or professionally. First, you have to consistently take action and do what most others will not do. And second, you must be able to deliver results in the midst of the inevitable stress, angst, and anxiety that follows.
I’ve heard it said: “Nothing hurts a failure but a try.”
You must be deliberate about putting yourself into uncomfortable and uncertain situations at times. These are the types of situations that have you shaking in your boots, figuratively and literally. Extraordinary outcomes only come from first making choices that most others will not make. These are the difficult decisions, and ensuing actions that have the great potential to expose you to ridicule; and to place you in very vulnerable positions that make you a target for scrutiny and criticism. You’re thinking: “Am I out of my freaking mind?” The answer is… YES, you are out of your mind, and waaay out of your comfort zone. But, this is the place where most worthwhile happenings, happen…
But, it’s at this point that the majority of people will opt out because it’s easier. Very often, our natural instincts are to go small; to get invisible when faced with challenges or change. Instead, the best go big. They run into, instead of run away. They then deliver the goods.
At some point, we all find ourselves alone on the “stage.” So how do you NOT get so shaken that you cannot perform?
1. Feel the shake. Let it be. Don’t run from it, lean into it. You not only have to be willing to face it, but you must also embrace it. Let it help you by allowing it to push you to higher levels of performance. Turn it into positive energy, not just negative anxiety. It’s a friend, not your foe.
2. Focus on what the shake really is. It’s fear. But fear of what? When you boil it down, it’s simply the fear of looking bad or of being “wrong” in the eyes of others. That’s it. Once you understand how base and universal these fears really are, they are much easier to manage and overcome. Everybody has them… EVERYBODY. Take comfort in knowing that fact, and let it empower and embolden you.
3. Let #1 and #2 fuel your performance. Channel that energy into executing what your hard work and preparation has positioned you to do. You’ve earned the right to deserve it, and to reap the rewards.