Retire Your Representative

Tom Leu | 07 November 2016 | Psychology | 0 Comments    | 430 Total Post Views
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How often does your representative show up?

> You know, that person who is merely a version of you… not the real you.

> You know, the more politically-correct, diplomatic version of you who attempts to keep up with Jones’ and saves so much face that you’re virtually unrecognizeable.

> You know, that watered-down version of you that has no edge, no point-of-view, no distinguishable differentiation.

> You know, that version of you who is way too concerned about what others think of you.

> You know, that version of you who doesn’t realize that others aren’t thinking of you much at all, because they’re thinking of themselves much more.

How often does this YOU show up as YOU?

New York Times best selling author, and body language expert Janine Driver floored me with this simple, yet profound question when I trained with her in the great state of Maine.

Here’s a couple of definitions for context:

“representative” – (noun) a person or thing that represents another or others.

“represent” – (verb) to stand or act in the place of, as a substitute, proxy, or agent; to portray or depict; to present the likeness of, or play the part of.

A representative is a stand-in; a substitute; a pretender. My “representative” has shown up for most of my life. My “representative” has always been well-intentioned, and has helped me at times, but has held me back much more. My “representative” appears to be an asset many times, but is actually deficit.

Even writing this post, I have to be careful not to let my rep do the talking. It’s Tom who’s the person behind the words. HE needs to do the talking. Tom is edgy, sarcastic, critical, comical, incisive, and intelligent. Yeah, that’s right… intelligent, I fucking said it because it’s true. “Rep Tom” wouldn’t say that. Real Tom would. “Rep Tom” would fear what people might think of him for saying that. Real Tom wouldn’t. There’s nothing wrong with being yourself; being honest, real, raw, and true. I’ve learned that there’s no other way to be if you hope to live a fulfilling life. There’s no other way to be if you hope to truly connect with others deeper than just superficially. There’s no other way to be if you hope to make a real difference while you’re here riding on this rock called planet Earth.

There’s No. Other. Fucking. Way. To. Be.

So retire your representative. Give yourself permission to put that prick out to pasture. I’m talking to me as much as I’m talking to you right here, right now. Do yourself, and the rest of us a fucking favor and just be YOU. Just do YOU. There’s no one else to be. There’s no other way to be. There’s no time left for inauthenticity, fakeness, or fear-based living. Anything less than the real, true you is depriving the world of all you have to offer. And that my friends is a crying shame as my Mother used to say. So much so, that I personally will not tolerate it any longer.

And speaking of being tolerate:

If you offend easily, I’m not the guy for you, and this ‘aint the place for you. Click off now.

If you’re a fundamentalist freak on the fringe, I’m not the guy for you.

If you’re a judgemental, look-down-your-nose at those who speak their truth, I’m not the guy for you.

If you think you’ve got the market cornered on “the truth” for all, then I’m not the guy for you.

If you’re scared of looking at yourself and owning your own shit, then I’m not the guy for you.

If you think you’re the smartest person in the room, then you’re in the wrong fucking room.

If you’re fired-up, and pumped-up and inspired after reading this… then I’m definitely the guy for you.

… If you see the need and value of talking shiFt… then this is the place for you.

“Humans should be less judgey… There’s more to life than falling in line.” – Anonymous Facebook comment

Stay tuned-in…

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