Stop Complaining, Get Pissed, & Grow a Pair

Tom Leu, MS | 13 December 2011 | talk shiFt | 2 Comments    | 744 Total Post Views

If this title offends you, then you probably won’t find anything of value here. This piece is for those (of us) who benefit from getting the cage rattled a little bit sometimes. If you can’t handle that, then you should consider clicking off… no harm, no foul. But, if you think you might be in the 5% I target, then please read on…

I can’t stand perpetual whiners. I have a very low tolerance for those who b*tch and moan constantly about the status quo; those who are solution-averse, problem-dwellers.

Boo, hoo…

Your plans didn’t pan out? Your goals got side-lined? Your expectations weren’t met? Your ego got bruised?

What are you gonna do now? What do you do with those inevitable moments of discouragement, doubt, disillusionment, and despair?

Kick and scream? Pout? Blame others? Give up? These are all (self-sabotaging) options for you if you choose ’em.

However, I suggest you start stopping your self-sabotage NOW!

STOP wasting your precious time…

…complaining about everyone and everything.

…whining about all the reasons why your life has not turned out the way you wanted it to.

…blaming others for why you don’t have what you want.

…beating yourself up for having dreams that are challenging and hard to achieve.

…turning to diversions (attractive distractions) that get you off track.

…using money as an excuse for why you can’t do something (point: we all “find” the money we need for the things that we really want).

…hearing only what you want to hear and believing your own bullsh*t.

…second guessing your real passions (point: if they recur, they’re likely real).

…envying those who (appear to) have what you want.

…trying to be all things to all people (point: diplomacy has its place, but so does taking a position and putting people in their place when necessary).

…ignoring the signs that confirm you’re doing what you’re supposed to be doing.



…listening to others you trust.

…taking tangible action toward your goals.

…believing in your real abilities and strengths.

…accepting that you’re going to get down occasionally, and that’s OK.

…embracing that not everyone is going to dig you and what you do.

…committing to sharpening your skills, learning new things, and growing as a human being.

Stop complaining – only identifying and rehashing the problems, without a solution.

Get pissed – reach your threshold, the point of no return, a moment of truth.

Grow a pair – realize your solutions, make decisions, undertake massive and consistent action of high-pay off activities to CHANGE your circumstances.

To accomplish all of the above, keep these 3 initiatives on your radar at all times:

FOCUS – continually be creating and executing your plan.

INSULATE – avoid the many dream stealers abounding; embrace those who keep you accountable.

PERSPECTIVE – recalibrate, recharge, recommit, re-examine, and re-focus your actions along the way.

Stop simply drowning in the “dreaming”… start really doing.

Stay tuned-in…


  1. CiJay on 22 April 12, 2:51pm

    Had to share this one! Strikes a personal chord w/ me. MY biggest complaint is about the incessant b!tching by some of my aquiantences. (who shall remain nameless) Also, this is just what I needed today to get motivated after last nights celebratory indulgences. You always have just what I’m looking for to get my head right! Thanks for that, Tom.

  2. Tom Leu on 22 April 12, 4:19pm

    Thanks CiJay! Strikes a chord with me too which is why I wrote this piece. The world is full of whiners who live in the friggin problems (many of which) they created themselves. I have moments when I “lean” that way too, who doesn’t? But we don’t have to live there. It’s a choice… plain and simple. And I choose actions toward solutions. Anybody else??

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