Today in Music History 04/19
TiMH April 19
In 1965, The Beatle's single "Ticket to Ride" was released on Capitol records in the US. The single's label stated that the song was from the upcoming movie Eight Arms to Hold You (the original name for the movie Help!).
In 1974, guitarist Ron Wood played his first live show with The Rolling Stones.
In 1975, Elton John fired his longtime bassist, Dee Murray, and drummer, Nigel Olsson, the day before his album Captain Fantastic and the Brown Dirt Cowboy was released.
In 1980, Van Halen's third album, Women & Children First, blasted onto the charts.
In 1980, Brian Johnson replaced the late Bon Scott as AC/DC's lead singer. Within two weeks, the band was recording their classic Back In Black album.
In 1980, Blondie went to No.1 on the US singles chart with "Call Me," featured in the Richard Gere movie American Gigolo.
Also in 1980, the Eagles' "I Can't Tell You Why" peaked at #8 on the singles chart.
Isolation screams distrust.
©2009 Tom Leu
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April 19th, 2009 - 19:42
“Isolation screams distrust.”
Yes.
But I’ve only recently come to that realization. For the longest time, I saw it like this: ‘Since the only person you can ever really control is yourself, if someone else disappoints you or lets you down, it’s only because you yourself have given them the opportunity to do so. There’s no such thing as being disappointed in someone else, ultimately you should only be disappointed in yourself.’ To rely too much on others just seemed to me to be a way to evade personal responsibility; an excuse to blame so-and-so instead.
But I’ve recently come to realize that this mindset is fear-based. To rely on someone else does carry with it an inherent vulnerability because yes, you are giving them that opportunity to not live up to your expectations. And they can’t let you down if you don’t expect anything from them in the first place. But that measure of protection against disappointment comes with a price- the creation of isolation, that terminal uniqueness.
Distrust is all-or-nothing; a hallmark of the chronically unhappy. But of course indiscriminate trusting is not a good idea either. It seems to me that the midpoint between the two is to learn the characteristics of trustowrthy vs. untrustoworthy people, (figure out what those characteristics are to you..?) which will then help you to see those good and bad qualities in others, (and yourself too, of course) which in turn can show you who to rely on and who to avoid like the plague.
But that’s as far as I’ve gotten. Haven’t quite figured out all the characteristics yet.