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   Sara
   November 18th, 2008 - 00:37

   But this isn’t always a bad thing, right? Sometimes your behavior has to contradict the way you truly feel, because to act on those feelings would be detrimental and self-destructive? (I read your ‘building a mystery’ entry and I thought it was along the same line as your ‘sectets’ post that I was kind of struggling to grasp, but I think I get it now?) ……… Or did I completely miss the point here, & you actually mean that people aren’t cognizant of the messages being sent by their behaviors?
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   Tom Leu
   November 21st, 2008 - 16:11

   I believe we are aware AND unaware simultaneously of much of our outward behavior. The trick is raising one’s individual awareness of this because… my experience has taught me that the vast majority of people aren’t even considering this stuff, much less acting on it. This fact gives those that are a distinct advantage both personally and professionally.

   So no, a person’s outward contradiction of inner feelings isn’t always bad as much as it’s sometimes necessary. So I think you’re right, at times we DO need to consciously reign things in and remain outwardly politically correct thus avoiding excessive personal pain and suffering.

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