Walking Contradictions

So many people are fucking walking contradiction’s of themselves. Hypocrisy is another word for this, and runs rampant in the world. You’ve got your atheists who pray to their “god,” your Christians who cuss, smoke, drink and screw outside of marriage (none of which bother me one iota mind you), your politicians who preach tolerance, […]

The 5%

A lot of well-intentioned folks are afraid of truth; afraid to get honest and look at things objectively. Based on a butt-load of personal experience and a bit of psychology, my bet is that 95% of people are. I used to be… but not anymore. Therefore, this writing, and my entire Get LIT gig here will […]

The Realization

The realization… that your “voice” isn’t being heard. The realization… that your ideas are as important as anyone else’s. The realization… that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves. The realization… that this reality will remain until an audience is cultivated. The realization… that to cultivate an audience, you have to shove said “voice” and ideas down […]

The Loud Talker

Ah yes, the “loud-talker” in public… you know who I’m talking about… hopefully it’s not you. This is an interesting breed of apparently oblivious (though not always), self-indulgent gems who make it their mission to ensure EVERYONE within earshot can hear every bullshit detail of their entire fucking conversation whether welcomed or not. These self-centered […]

Audacity of Certainty

Are you capable of being wrong? No, I mean really capable of saying “I got that wrong, I missed the boat on that one, I got some bad information, I blew that, I’m promptly removing my head from my ass now?” Are you truly willing and able to own shit like that? Really be honest […]

The Hard Way

Pointing fingers and shirking responsibility. Defensiveness. Denial. Avoidance. Resisting change. Being self-centered vs. selfless. Taking vs. giving. Telling vs. listening. Condescension. Intolerance. Arrogance. Insensitivity. These are the paths of least resistance. The easier things to do. The most predictable ways to behave. The ways most choose to take. These are the easy ways… Why? You […]

Thanks, for Nothing

This entire post SHOULD be unnecessary, but unfortunately it’s not. To me, this all goes without saying… But I’m gonna say it anyway in the hopes that even just one person receives this message the way it’s intended. And that intention is simply to improve the way people communicate with each other, one interaction at a […]

“Human Relations”… not-so-common-sense

For years, I taught a college course called “Human Relations.” It was always my favorite class to teach because the content blended principles of communication and psychology, and was the inspiration for many of my Communichology™ concepts going forward. The course was often misunderstood at the outset by both students AND staff because the title is so […]

Mirror

Sure you look into it, but are you truly “seeing” what’s there? Some are subconsciously afraid of the mirror. Not for what they see, but for what they don’t want to see. It’s precisely this kind of pride-leveling that’s necessary for growth. Sometimes it’s necessary to make changes to things that may have long been […]

Tool IQ

In the very popular Tool Time series (pats self on back), I call out the nine parts of the “RPM” approach to avoid being a “tool” most of the time. Here is a self-survey to assess your potential toolness. Answer Yes or No to each statement below. honestly and quickly. Score yourself at the bottom. If your […]