That which drives all behavior, therefore worthy of in-depth study… Where commYOUnication skills and psychology collide (Communichology). Distinctions, insights, & strategies to improve your communications and interactions.
Also, the analysis of the social psychological principles of persuasion, influence, and communication affecting all forms of marketing. Topics on the art and science of influencing others and inducing beliefs and behaviors. Presenting social strategies to best navigate and participate in the inevitable manipulation and politics present in most social situations.
In the very popular Tool Time series (pats self on back), I call out the nine parts of the “RPM” approach to avoid being a “tool” most of the time. Here is a self-survey to assess your potential toolness. Answer YES or NO to each statement below based on if it rings true for you. honestly and […]
While purposely rolling your eyes, squirming in your seat, huffing and puffing in apparent strong disagreement with another person’s comments, positions, or points-of-view, at least have the nuts to speak up when asked to share YOUR views. Otherwise, blow it out your ass… Look, there’s no honor in being a dick, but choosing to sit […]
Many years ago, one of my mentors used to tell me that “the world is as you are, not as it is…”
It’s not complicated. It’s not impossible. But it is an inside job. Being “nice” is a lost art among many. Too many believe this is an outdated, unnecessary, and useless way to live. I disagree. “But you’re not always ‘nice’ with what you write and talk shiFt™ about here Tom.” This is true. And the […]
Stimulus = what happens to us. Response = what we do next. The “freedom” in between as the picture here illustrates also goes by another name called “communication skills.” And there’s a “big ass gap” between those who are good at this stuff, and those who only think they are. Consider this: It’s estimated that […]
The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part Two)… Violations & Absurdities >> Part One (1-5) 6. Suspension of Disbelief – This is it’s own post… likely even its own book one day. Many folks believe in fairly tales. The internet is a full-on free-for-all proving this assertion. Everybody needs to believe some types of fantasy to make them […]
The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part One)… Violations and Absurdities >> Part Two (6-10) 1. Offended by “strong language” – It’s not a matter of IF you use strong language or not, it’s a matter of whether strong language is a real part of who you are or not. I couldn’t give two shits whether […]
“I don’t want to go there; I don’t want to talk about that…” I hear this quite a bit within the different aspects of my work. The frequency of this isn’t surprising, but the high price we pay for this choice often is. There’s a large, collective cost attached to avoidance and denial. It’s often […]
The following is an excerpt from my keynote speaking presentation of the same name: Laughter, it’s alluring. It pulls people in. It gets attention… We all love to laugh, but did you know there’s something called “laughter yoga?” I first heard about this when I was in Las Vegas speaking at an (unfortunately, yet predictably […]
Airports: One curious place where some people feel they’ve been granted a license to be a whiny, complaining, irritable shit head. It’s justifiable in their minds I guess… Because after all, their delayed flight and subsequent inconvenience is somehow more significant, and therefore takes precedence over the rest of the mere-mortal-pee-on’s in the exact same […]
