Tool IQ

In the very popular Tool Time series (pats self on back), I call out the nine parts of the “RPM” approach to avoid being a “tool” most of the time. Here is a self-survey to assess your potential toolness. Answer YES or NO to each statement below based on if it rings true for you. honestly and […]

Huff and Puff

While purposely rolling your eyes, squirming in your seat, huffing and puffing in apparent strong disagreement with another person’s comments, positions, or points-of-view, at least have the nuts to speak up when asked to share YOUR views. Otherwise, blow it out your ass… Look, there’s no honor in being a dick, but choosing to sit […]

Nice Wins!

It’s not complicated. It’s not impossible. But it is an inside job. Being “nice” is a lost art among many. Too many believe this is an outdated, unnecessary, and useless way to live. I disagree. “But you’re not always ‘nice’ with what you write and talk shiFt™ about here Tom.” This is true. And the […]

The Opposite of Knee-Jerk

Stimulus = what happens to us. Response = what we do next. The “freedom” in between as the picture here illustrates also goes by another name called “communication skills.” And there’s a “big ass gap” between those who are good at this stuff, and those who only think they are. Consider this: It’s estimated that […]

the talk shiFt Top 10: Part Two

The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part Two)… Violations & Absurdities >> Part One (1-5) 6. Suspension of Disbelief – This is it’s own post… likely even its own book one day. Many folks believe in fairly tales. The internet is a full-on free-for-all proving this assertion. Everybody needs to believe some types of fantasy to make them […]

Avoid-Dance

“I don’t want to go there; I don’t want to talk about that…” I hear this quite a bit within the different aspects of my work. The frequency of this isn’t surprising, but the high price we pay for this choice often is. There’s a large, collective cost attached to avoidance and denial. It’s often […]

The Allure of Laugh

The following is an excerpt from my keynote speaking presentation of the same name: Laughter, it’s alluring. It pulls people in. It gets attention… We all love to laugh, but did you know there’s something called “laughter yoga?” I first heard about this when I was in Las Vegas speaking at an (unfortunately, yet predictably […]

Gate F8

Airports: One curious place where some people feel they’ve been granted a license to be a whiny, complaining, irritable shit head. It’s justifiable in their minds I guess… Because after all, their delayed flight and subsequent inconvenience is somehow more significant, and therefore takes precedence over the rest of the mere-mortal-pee-on’s in the exact same […]