Huff and Puff

While purposely rolling your eyes, squirming in your seat, huffing and puffing in apparent strong disagreement with another person’s comments, positions, or points-of-view, at least have the nuts to speak up when asked to share YOUR views. Otherwise, blow it out your ass… Look, there’s no honor in being a dick, but choosing to sit […]

Nice Wins!

It’s not complicated. It’s not impossible. But it is an inside job. Being “nice” is a lost art among many. Too many believe this is an outdated, unnecessary, and useless way to live. I disagree. “But you’re not always ‘nice’ with what you write and talk shiFt™ about here Tom.” This is true. And the […]

The Opposite of Knee-Jerk

Stimulus = what happens to us. Response = what we do next. The “freedom” in between as the picture here illustrates also goes by another name called “communication skills.” And there’s a “big ass gap” between those who are good at this stuff, and those who only think they are. Consider this: It’s estimated that […]

the talk shiFt Top 10: Part Two

The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part Two)… Violations & Absurdities >> Part One (1-5) 6. Suspension of Disbelief – This is it’s own post… likely even its own book one day. Many folks believe in fairly tales. The internet is a full-on free-for-all proving this assertion. Everybody needs to believe some types of fantasy to make them […]

Avoid-Dance

“I don’t want to go there; I don’t want to talk about that…” I hear this quite a bit within the different aspects of my work. The frequency of this isn’t surprising, but the high price we pay for this choice often is. There’s a large, collective cost attached to avoidance and denial. It’s often […]

The Allure of Laugh

The following is an excerpt from my keynote speaking presentation of the same name: Laughter, it’s alluring. It pulls people in. It gets attention… We all love to laugh, but did you know there’s something called “laughter yoga?” I first heard about this when I was in Las Vegas speaking at an (unfortunately, yet predictably […]

Gate F8

Airports: One curious place where some people feel they’ve been granted a license to be a whiny, complaining, irritable shit head. It’s justifiable in their minds I guess… Because after all, their delayed flight and subsequent inconvenience is somehow more significant, and therefore takes precedence over the rest of the mere-mortal-pee-on’s in the exact same […]

Spaced Out

What happened: Waiting in the long line for concessions at the movie theatre, while the guy behind me is literally breathing down my neck, practically on top of me, impatiently huffing and puffing semi-obnoxiously over the slowness of the line. What should have happened: #1) Recognize that you’re not the only one here who is […]