Do things happen for a reason, or do reasons make things happen? Read it again. It’s not word play. It’s the difference between fatalism (i.e. powerlessness) and determinism (i.e. cause & effect). In psychology, it’s referred to as locus of control (and is divided into external vs. internal LOC).

Those who operate with a largely external locus of control seemingly surrender much of their outcomes to other people, places, and things around them and come off as victims. You know, it’s the boss, the spouse, the economy, the government’s fault for why things are as they are… But those who operate with a largely internal locus of control assume the primary responsibility for the outcomes of their lives as the product of the actions THEY take. It’s not someone, or something else’s “fault” for their circumstances or outcomes. I used to tell students in my Psychology classes: “if you get an A in this class, it’s your fault…” Win or lose, it’s on them. Far from victims, they are victors in the truest sense. This is how I’ve always chosen to live. And choosing the alternative is not really living at all. It’s not too late to make a different choice. It never is…

Stay tuned-in…


The 5%

A lot of well-intentioned folks are afraid of truth; afraid to get honest and look at things objectively.

Based on a butt-load of personal experience and a bit of psychology, my bet is that 95% of people are.

I used to be… but not anymore.

Therefore, this writing, and my entire Get LIT gig here will likely only resonate with about 5% of people. I know this and embrace this. And it’s OK because the 5% is the minority that truly matters.


Because the 5% aren’t afraid of truth… the truth and their truth. These are the difference-makers who consistently choose action over apprehension.

The courage and capacity for a deep level of personal honesty and transparency is what separates the 5% from everyone else who are pretending, yet need it most. I speak to those who’ve detached from their denial; those few who are empowered by their potential to help themselves and serve others simultaneously.

Most are deathly afraid to look at the world and themselves with an unbiased, and unapologetic honesty.

It’s hard, very hard. But no less necessary.

By doing this you risk regrets, repercussions, of being found-out, and of being judged. This fear therefore keeps many frozen and fake.

Everyone has regrets. Everyone has done things that they wish they could undo. But, you don’t have live in that regret forever… unless you choose to continue to deny it.

True freedom is found by embracing truth and not being afraid of it.

This is the basic foundation of all recovery principles: getting honest with yourself about yourself, so you can break free from your self-inflicted prisons, to finally start living as the best version of yourself. Nothing else matters.

So simple to say; yet so difficult to do.

Writing this stuff will make me unpopular with many. But I don’t care. It’s how I’ve learned to live and break free from my own crap. I choose to share it with others today. This is Lifestyle Initiative Training™.

So, this is for the 5% who consistently DO the following…

→ Have the courage to look in the mirror and get honest with themselves about themselves.

→ Refuse to settle.

→ Are willing to sacrifice enough, long enough, to do what they need to get what they want and need.

→ Take responsible risks.

→ Aren’t afraid to changeor OF change.

→ Have the balls to admit when they’re wrong.

→ Resolve to improve by choosing to seek solutions.

→ Embrace that which is positive, motivational, and inspirational.

→ Notice and interact with the 95% majority, but can still play nice with the other kids.

→ Are willing to serve.

This is for the minority; the movers & shakers in the 5%.

Stay tuned-in…

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