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by Tom Leu

Twenty-Nine

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Problem-solving – Part 2.

It’s everyone’s job; everyday. Your value, and mine, is to attributed to, and proportional to the size of problems you and I can help others solve. So who are these others? Anyone and everyone you interact with… your family, friends, co-workers, colleagues, and customers.

The bigger the problem; the more valuable the solution that can be offered. It can be a tangible or intangible solution, just as long as it brings real or perceived value to another.

And value is determined by perception, not necessarily by reality. It’s not up to the solution-provider, but more so, the solution-seeker, to decide something’s inherent value.

It’s an important distinction that many get backwards.

Definitively know what you find, AND what others find value in, and then provide that value to those in your network who need it most.

Providing value to others upfront, produces your value to them on the back end. Win-win.

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by Tom Leu

Fifteen

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Altered states. That’s what some people live in… altered states of reality. Their perception of their world, how they think they are being perceived by others, and their self-perceived contribution to this world, is altered. By that I mean: skewed, distorted, disjointed, disconnected, exaggerated, erroneous… i.e. not fucking based in reality whatsoever.

What’s more amazing is the passion these know-it-all’s have trying to convince others to buy into their twisted altered states of existence even in the face of solid evidence to the contrary. I shouldn’t be shocked. Tools of this type are more the norm than not in many cases, in many places. Avoid them if you can. Kick them to fucking curb if you can’t. Stat.

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by Thomas Leu

Reality is Perception

Many years ago, one of my mentors used to tell me that “the world is as you are, not as it is…”

Many years ago, one of my mentors used to tell me that “the world is as you are, not as it is…” It’s an interesting observation that has stuck with me ever since.

Things aren’t always what they seem to be; but they are what they seem to be to me, and to you. We make our world so small sometimes. Limited by the confines of our immediate surroundings, we mistakenly believe that what we see is all there is.

It isn’t.

How we “see things” influences how we “feel” about those things, which influences how we “act” upon those feelings.

How you think = How you are.

So… since our perception is our reality, doesn’t it make sense to change our perception when our reality is in need of change?

the shiFt:

Easier said than done, but no less possible. But how? How do we go about changing our perceptions?

Two ways:

1) Get honest about any long-held perceptions that may not serve you anymore. Fall out of love with the notion that your way of seeing things is the only “right” way. It rarely is. If you don’t have the objectivity to do this yourself, ask someone else who really knows you to help. >> Yes, it’s OK to ask for help. Asking for help = Strength)<<

2) Become willing to consider another perspective. Being willing doesn’t mean blindly agreeing. Do some homework and investigate other viewpoints for yourself. Sometimes the very act of trying to objectively challenge or support another perspective exposes new information that was unseen and/or unknown before.

Few like to change. Change is often scary and makes people defensive and resistant. Change is hard. But change is also necessary for progress and growth.

“If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” ~ Dr. Wayne Dyer

Think back one, five, even ten or more years ago… how much have you changed? Is “as you are” today driving you in the direction you want to be tomorrow? If not, then keep what’s working, and get rid of the rest. Your “world” depends on it. Pay attention to your perception.

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