Lovers & Haters

“To escape criticism… do nothing, say nothing, be nothing.”~ Elbert Hubbard As a creator of any kind of content, the middle-ground is the dead zone. Getting lovers gets you haters. For the same reasons that you cause some to “love” you and what you do, you’re necessarily going to cause some to “hate” you and whatContinue reading “Lovers & Haters”

Three-Sixty-Self

Hard truth: People are self-centered more than they’re not. Everyone’s favorite subject is themselves; whether they admit it or not. **Think about it: you’re thinking about you and yours, much more than anyone or anything else, the majority of the time. Your day, your job, your money, your family, your friends, your food, your plans,Continue reading “Three-Sixty-Self”

Avoid-Dance

“I don’t want to go there; I don’t want to talk about that…” I hear this quite a bit within the different aspects of my work. The frequency of this isn’t surprising, but the high price we pay for this choice often is. There’s a large, collective cost attached to avoidance and denial. It’s oftenContinue reading “Avoid-Dance”

“Human Relations”… not-so-common-sense

For years, I taught a college course called “Human Relations.” It was always my favorite class to teach because the content blended principles of communication and psychology, and was the inspiration for many of my Communichology™ concepts going forward. The course was often misunderstood at the outset by both students AND staff because the title is soContinue reading ““Human Relations”… not-so-common-sense”

Eighty-Five

85 Majoring in the minors; Minoring in the majors. It happens everywhere, much of the time. This is when people spend inordinate amounts of time focusing on stuff that matters least, at the expense of the stuff that matters most. This happens because it’s easier to avoid the bigger, harder issues at hand, and insteadContinue reading “Eighty-Five”

Eighty-Three

83 From a social psychological perspective, group participation is an interesting thing to watch, or not watch in many cases. I say not watch, because most people DON’T actually participate in group settings (or participate very little). They don’t engage, or even so much as display appropriate non-verbal communication letting the speaker know they’re withContinue reading “Eighty-Three”

Eighty

80 PreJUDGEment (you’re doing it right now deciding if you’re going to keep reading this or not). Preconceived notions. Stereotypes. Judging a book by its cover. Hell, just judging in general is pervasive (and kinda fun sometimes you have to admit — and if you don’t admit it, you’re a damn liar and you knowContinue reading “Eighty”