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The clever little catch phrase “divine interruption” recently crossed my radar. I thought I’d heard most of these cheesy, quasi-spiritual, prosperity theology phrases before, but must have missed this gem.

If you’re a religious type, this term likely implies predestination… (you know, the whole everything-happens-for-a-reason ideology). If you’re a rational type, this term likely implies coincidence… (you know, the whole shit happens, sometimes without explanation philosophy).

Either way, the TV preacher I heard proclaiming this propaganda succeeded in “interrupting” me enough to drop this divine piece here. Heavenly guided, or a reasonable coincidence? I guess that’s up to you to decide…

Stay tuned-in…


 

Assumption Gumption

assumptionsWhat happened…

Restaurant Customer: (scrolling on her phone frustratedly says aloud)… “Psalm 27…? Why do people do that…? Yet another scripture Facebook status!”

Waiter: (exuberantly replying after overhearing only the concluding sentence)… Oh I love that one!

RC: (taken off-guard)… What, Psalm 27?

W: Yes, it’s a song in my heart!

RC: (mildly shocked at the quickly formed false-assumption of a shared common interest)… You wrote a song about a scripture?

W: (proudly)… Well, I have it memorized in my heart and then the Lord gave me a melody to go along with it.

RC: I see.

W: Where do you go to church?

RC: (with direct eye contact)… I don’t.

W: (surprised, now aware of his overreach, but yet unaware of his outward nonverbal display of sympathetic condescension)… Oh… looking around then?

RC: (with direct eye contact and firm resolve)… Nope. Used to go, but don’t anymore.

W: (embarassed pause searching for an appropriate response)… Oh, I’m sorry if I offended you.

RC: (smiling)… No, not at all.

W: So, are you ready to order…?

What should have happened…

Restaurant Customer: (scrolling on her phone frustratedly says aloud)… “Psalm 27…? Why do people do that…? Yet another scripture Facebook status!”

Waiter: (cautiously)… Are you a fan of the Psalms?

RC: Nope. Not my area of interest.

W: I see. Are you ready to order?

Have the gumption to supervise your assumptions. This proactive activity will prevent the unnecessary foot-on-mouth disease from rearing its ugly head at inopportune times. It also makes you a touch less of tool in social settings.

Stay tuned-in…

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Willis Power?

I see and hear so many posts and announcements proclaiming people’s big and small life decisions made because it’s “obedience to god’s will for my life.” Really?

“Whatchu talkin ’bout Willis?”

This is yet another episode airing on the Delusion Network

Is it “obedience” to god’s will for your life or rationalization and justification to feel better about your sometimes irresponsible decisions to do what you really, really want to do?

In psychological terms, this is called confirmation bias. This is “the tendency for people to favor their perconceptions or hypotheses regardless of whether the information is true” or not.

“I distrust those people who know so well what God wants them to do because I notice it always coincides with their own desires.” ~ Susan B. Anthony

Look, I get it. You wish to be in a better place, have a better job… a better life. You want to feel better about… well, everything. You may want to chuck your day job in favor of pursuing your passions and your dreams. I’m with you. That’s awesome! I say do it… I did.

This type of mentality is rare, and only a few actually follow through and do it.

My issue is calling any decisions that you make “god’s will for your life.” It’s your will, your decision-making process, your intentions, your plans, your desires, and your dreams. You’re dressing it up with god’s stamp of approval because to many, this somehow makes it more believable; more authentic. Anything that “god” approves carries more weight right? Labeling it “obedience to god” is a technique people use to rationalize and justify doing what they really want to do, whether good ideas or not, to make themselves feel better about taking the risks. If there’s some “higher purpose” involved, well then, it HAS to be a good idea and therefore “god’s will.”

What’s truly impressive however, is all of the false humility and covert self-congratulations that’s cleverly disguised as divine decision-making. Don’t try to sell this life-whispering fairy tale to those of us rooted in rational reality, reason, and science. It’ll never fly.

Make no mistake, I believe that there’s power in will. The question is: whose will is it?

But here’s the kicker… it doesn’t really matter where one chooses to place this power. Because the real power ultimately exists within one’s decisions to take action on their plans. The power is not in the source of the perceived power, but in the action taken afterwards and ongoing.

So whether it’s god’s will or Willis’ will, call it what you want, I’m just calling it as I see it. You may “see” it differently, and that’s OK. Just back-up how you “see things” with critical thinking and science, and be open to healthy debate. It might just be “god’s will” at work…

Stay tuned-in…