Ever wonder why some people take action and accomplish much in life while others do not? This has always perplexed me, and made me wonder what personal characteristics and behaviors separate out those who have, from those who have not.
When referring to stepping up, accomplishing goals and making dreams a reality, I’ve found that people generally fall into one of three categories:
1. Those who DO:
Doers don’t ask, they just act. They don’t declare, they just do. They are the embodiment of persistence as evidenced through their enthusiasm for what they do. They may be fearful and apprehensive at times; they may have occasional doubts; and they periodically get down; but this is often short-lived as these kinds of people have an inner strength that transcends their circumstances. Despite any temporary hesitations, these types always continue to move forward and go after that which they deem important regardless of roadblocks or barriers. Quite simply, they become successful because they HAVE to. Not doing what it takes is NOT an option. Not doing what it takes is more painful than the doing.
2. Those who DON’T:
These are people who are victims, not victors. They constantly make excuses while rarely executing anything. They reject responsibility and routinely place blame. They are usually a part of the problem and unusually a part of the solution. They are quick to tell you why not and slow to tell you why. They may have dreams and passions, but they lack the courage to really pursue them. It’s easy to dream. It’s hard to continually muster the necessary courage, often in the face of opposition, to persevere and see things through… to do what they say can’t be done!
3. Those who THINK they DO:
This is arguably worse than #2 because the illusion exists that real progress is being made when it really isn’t. Most of these folks are convinced that they’re making progress because they are “busy” all the time. Their to-do lists are quite long, but their real output toward high-payoff activities is low, although they don’t see it that way. They frequently confuse busyness with productivity. They ARE NOT the same thing. These are the people that do a lot of talking about what they are going to do, what’s gonna happen, and what their plans are. They talk a good game, but execute poorly, if at all. Planning and preparation are good and necessary to get things underway, but ultimately, talk is cheap. You’re either DOING what you say or you’re not.
To paraphrase Tony Robbins:
‘When you’re constantly saying you should be doing this and should have done that… pretty soon you’re SHOULDING all over yourself.’
Make up your mind; talking and taking action are most often mutually exclusive.
So which kind of person are you? Which category do you find yourself in most often?
And is that OK with you?
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