Eighty-Four (84)

There’s a lot of talk out there. A lot of noise. A lot of non-sensical bullshit being spewed by pseudo-intellects (or worse) attempting to disguise their opinions as facts. If that’s you, knock that shit off.

Don’t confuse your strong feelings or personal certainty about some things as facts. Have the balls to admit that YOUR opinions (of course) aren’t everyone else’s facts. What’s worse is many-a-slanted diatribe are often offered up with little style, and full of equally little substance.

Having a compelling point-of-view, combined with quality writing AND speaking, is seemingly a lost art in our text/technology and self-centered/social media-driven world. You must have substantive reasons for people to pay attention to you other than just getting your attention in the first place. You must offer value. Value in the eye of the beholder. We all must.

So, have your opinions, state them often, but understand the difference between what you want to be true, what you wish to be true, with what IS truly fucking true. Not everyone will love you, and that’s actually a good thing. But instead of just being a tool for sport, offer up your valid and valuable idea-toolbox for others to pick and choose, and choose to use positively in their lives.

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Walking Contradictions


So many people are fucking walking contradiction’s of themselves. Hypocrisy is another word for this, and runs rampant in the world.

You’ve got your atheists who pray to their “god,” your Christians who cuss, smoke, drink and screw outside of marriage (none of which bother me one iota mind you), your politicians who preach tolerance, yet behave intolerantly, and your everday Joe’s who are self-righteous, social media motivators while their real lives are a hot mess. And on and on…

What’s worse is that so many people post their proclamations, espouse their motivational messages, waive their self-serving fucking flags, and do their damnedest to convince anyone who will listen that they are something they’re not.

Oh I get it… we’re only human. We all fall short, make mistakes, and need to improve. Including me. I’m not perfect of course. Far from it. I get it wrong, and fuck up often. I’m one of these walking contradictions myself at times. I’ve been known to put on a good public showing while my private show is out of control.

>> I mean, you can’t write a post like this and NOT cop to this shit as well without being an A-1 hypocritical asshole yourself.

But I also admit this shit, and resolve to get better. To improve. To learn. To grow.

That’s why am writing this. Because I know I’m not alone. I see so much bullshit out there, as you likely do as well. People are constantly posturing and posing to present as someone they’re really not. It’s a show; it’s smoke and mirrors. We can all benefit so much more by just being as transparent and honest as possible. This is something that requires ongoing attention and deliberate work to actually achieve.

the shiFt:

Want a better, authentic life for you and yours? Want more congruency that comes from actually walking the talk? Want to be a better person? Great…

Then get fucking after it by getting humble. Start by taking off the mask. Get honest with yourself first, and then everyone you care about second. Tell the truth about your true self… good and not so good. Show the people who matter who you really are instead of putting on a Facebook front of who you really are. The world will be a much better place if we all got on board this train instead of continuing a dead end journey on the bullshit bus.

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The 5%

A lot of well-intentioned folks are afraid of truth; afraid to get honest and look at things objectively.

Based on a butt-load of personal experience and a bit of psychology, my bet is that 95% of people are.

I used to be… but not anymore.

Therefore, this writing, and my entire Get LIT gig here will likely only resonate with about 5% of people. I know this and embrace this. And it’s OK because the 5% is the minority that truly matters.


Because the 5% aren’t afraid of truth… the truth and their truth. These are the difference-makers who consistently choose action over apprehension.

The courage and capacity for a deep level of personal honesty and transparency is what separates the 5% from everyone else who are pretending, yet need it most. I speak to those who’ve detached from their denial; those few who are empowered by their potential to help themselves and serve others simultaneously.

Most are deathly afraid to look at the world and themselves with an unbiased, and unapologetic honesty.

It’s hard, very hard. But no less necessary.

By doing this you risk regrets, repercussions, of being found-out, and of being judged. This fear therefore keeps many frozen and fake.

Everyone has regrets. Everyone has done things that they wish they could undo. But, you don’t have live in that regret forever… unless you choose to continue to deny it.

True freedom is found by embracing truth and not being afraid of it.

This is the basic foundation of all recovery principles: getting honest with yourself about yourself, so you can break free from your self-inflicted prisons, to finally start living as the best version of yourself. Nothing else matters.

So simple to say; yet so difficult to do.

Writing this stuff will make me unpopular with many. But I don’t care. It’s how I’ve learned to live and break free from my own crap. I choose to share it with others today. This is Lifestyle Initiative Training™.

So, this is for the 5% who consistently DO the following…

→ Have the courage to look in the mirror and get honest with themselves about themselves.

→ Refuse to settle.

→ Are willing to sacrifice enough, long enough, to do what they need to get what they want and need.

→ Take responsible risks.

→ Aren’t afraid to changeor OF change.

→ Have the balls to admit when they’re wrong.

→ Resolve to improve by choosing to seek solutions.

→ Embrace that which is positive, motivational, and inspirational.

→ Notice and interact with the 95% majority, but can still play nice with the other kids.

→ Are willing to serve.

This is for the minority; the movers & shakers in the 5%.

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