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The concept of “dream-stealing” is one I’ve written and talked about quite a bit over the years. I don’t have too many of these folks in my life (anymore), but more will crop up, they always do. I’ve made conscious decisions to distance myself from dream-stealers past and present. These are the people that sucked more energy and life out of me than they put in. They had to go.

Some of these were the know-it-all’s, or the huff and puffers, and the avoider types among others, that I’ve written about. The move away from some of these people wasn’t easy, but it was possible, and I’m far better off for it.

I used to discuss this concept of “dream-stealing” with groups of new students at the college where I taught classes in psychology and communications. I would often hear from many students who shared their stories that involved others in their lives (typically family and friends) who worked hard to make their already hard path, even harder by being discouraging, skeptical, and generally unsupportive of their endeavors. I’ve heard it said: people want you to do well, just not better than them… So for some, their mission in life becomes making others’  lives more difficult. I encouraged these students then, as I’m encouraging you now, to cut these folks loose… immediately. Kick them to the fucking curb.

Never allow someone else’s lack progress, or dreams of their own, to hinder or hijack yours. That’s on YOU if you do…

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Bitching. Moaning. Whining. Complaining. It’s all some people seem to do. It’s their identity and their attention-seeking mechanism. They’re quick to point out what sucks, what doesn’t work, why it’s never worked, and who’s to blame. They’re easy to spot because their language is laced with self-pity. They’re seemingly incapable of NOT living in the past.

News flash: There’s no nobility in this. There’s no redeeming value in choosing this lifestyle. And make no mistake… it IS a choice. It’s so easy to point fingers. It’s so easy to cry foul. It’s so terribly easy to be a victim… which is why so many do.

As an organizational leader (and I argue that we are ALL leaders of something, somewhere), I’m looking for those who have the courage to go against the grain. Those who have the balls to step-up, and come up with real solutions to real problems. Those who aren’t afraid to be objective about their part in past failures, but who also aren’t afraid to embrace change and to be badass about making things better.

Screw the doom-and-gloomers and the dream-stealers. Be a solution-seeker, or get the hell out of the way. Do it for your sake, and for all of our sakes… for fuck’s sake.

Stay tuned-in…