woman-behind-maskHappy Thanksgiving, and all that happy horse shit…

I don’t mind holidays… I enjoy them as much as the next guy, I just don’t gush over them like a lot of people do. Yes, I’m thankful for things in my life, many things in fact, but I don’t need a designated day to feel more so than any other day. Nor do I feel prompted to proclaim all of my gratitude to the world via the internet.

For me, the incessant amount of well-wishing that is propogated throughout social media on holidays is nothing short of nauseating. It’s bullshit because much of it is forced, fake, and for show. Where the hell are all of these people the rest of the year? Why the sudden urge to post gratitude lists, and worse… pictures of what you’re stuffing your fucking face with all day? Nobody gives two shits about your homemade gravy or pumpkin pie. They only care about their own.

the shiFt:

So please, for the love of your god, stop slobbering all over each other on holidays, and instead, begin being this present, thoughtful, and thankful tomorrow, next week, next month, and all throughout the year.

Demonstrate these coveted, click-bait behaviors while you’re out shopping for that special someone… whilst scowling at all the other impatient fucks in front of you in line, for taking too goddamn long to check out.

Happy Turkey Days hypocrites. You know who you are…

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Walking Contradictions


So many people are fucking walking contradiction’s of themselves. Hypocrisy is another word for this, and runs rampant in the world.

You’ve got your atheists who pray to their “god,” your Christians who cuss, smoke, drink and screw outside of marriage (none of which bother me one iota mind you), your politicians who preach tolerance, yet behave intolerantly, and your everday Joe’s who are self-righteous, social media motivators while their real lives are a hot mess. And on and on…

What’s worse is that so many people post their proclamations, espouse their motivational messages, waive their self-serving fucking flags, and do their damnedest to convince anyone who will listen that they are something they’re not.

Oh I get it… we’re only human. We all fall short, make mistakes, and need to improve. Including me. I’m not perfect of course. Far from it. I get it wrong, and fuck up often. I’m one of these walking contradictions myself at times. I’ve been known to put on a good public showing while my private show is out of control.

>> I mean, you can’t write a post like this and NOT cop to this shit as well without being an A-1 hypocritical asshole yourself.

But I also admit this shit, and resolve to get better. To improve. To learn. To grow.

That’s why am writing this. Because I know I’m not alone. I see so much bullshit out there, as you likely do as well. People are constantly posturing and posing to present as someone they’re really not. It’s a show; it’s smoke and mirrors. We can all benefit so much more by just being as transparent and honest as possible. This is something that requires ongoing attention and deliberate work to actually achieve.

the shiFt:

Want a better, authentic life for you and yours? Want more congruency that comes from actually walking the talk? Want to be a better person? Great…

Then get fucking after it by getting humble. Start by taking off the mask. Get honest with yourself first, and then everyone you care about second. Tell the truth about your true self… good and not so good. Show the people who matter who you really are instead of putting on a Facebook front of who you really are. The world will be a much better place if we all got on board this train instead of continuing a dead end journey on the bullshit bus.

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the talk shiFt Top 10: Part One


The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part One)… Violations and Absurdities

>> Part Two (6-10)

1. Offended by “strong language” – It’s not a matter of IF you use strong language or not, it’s a matter of whether strong language is a real part of who you are or not. I couldn’t give two shits whether someone swears or not when speaking or writing, it doesn’t affect me either way, just be fucking consistent. I come from a real-world where occasional (or frequent) use of cursing is the norm. If you don’t, that’s fine. Just don’t come here busting my balls because you’re offended. Move on. For my purposes here, the use of “strong language” is a deliberate choice because it’s consistent with “who I am when no one’s looking…” Some could benefit from trying on this genuineness and authenticity for a change; it’s pretty liberating and does not violate #2. For more on this, check out Power of the Potty Mouth.

2.  Hypocrisy – First off, 99.9976% (non-scientific) of those who wave flag #1 above, are also part of #2 by default. You see, everyone has, and will again use “strong language” at some point. If that’s true (and it is), then you’re all hypocrites if #1 on this list chaps your ass. Hypocrisy (noun) = “1. a pretense of having a virtuous character, moral or religious beliefs or principles, etc. that one does not really possess.” Synonym: deceit. ( Hypocrites are the prime offenders in the courts of the talk shiFtosphere. It’s not because I disagree with what you do or stand for, it’s because you don’t have the balls to be honest about it. You deliberately denounce certain things, and then proceed to do them yourself. You’re the worst of the worst. You’re a fraud; a fake. You’re an artificial person living in a fantasy land of your own making. And many are watching… see the closely-related #5 below.

3. Obliviousness – Most are unaware of their collective unawareness. Putting it another way, most have no fucking clue that they’re clueless. Clueless to what? Clueless to what’s really happening around them. Clueless to how others are perceiving them. Clueless to what their non-verbals are screaming out to others. Clueless to how they’re coming off to colleagues, co-workers, supervisors, and what messages they’re sending. Truly clueless to how much damage they’re doing to their personal credibility, both in the short term and the long term. It’s impossible to to really notice nuances when one’s head is so far up their own ass. Pull it out and take a look around, a real look around. You’ll be surprised at what you really “see” and what you’ll learn when you do. Alas, most won’t though. And so, I’ll keep calling it out here, there, and everywhere.

4. Messenger shooters – Everyone’s heard the adage “don’t shoot the messenger” right? Problem is, most still do. And they do it again and again. Why? The are two simple reasons that are products of basic human psychology. 1. People are largely self-centered, and 2. People prefer to shiFt responsibility to others rather than shoulder it themselves. We want what we want, when we want it. When our expectations (realistic or not), aren’t being met, and we’re getting the bad news, it’s easier to chew someone else’s ass out (deserved or not), rather than slowing down enough to consider what else might be at play. Or, ask what your responsibility in this situation may be? Right. What’s the right thing to do? Nah, it’s too much work. Screw that. I’m in hurry, I don’t like what’s happening here. This is pissing me off. That is pissing me off. Now I’m gonna go off… It’s common, but no less acceptable.

5. Thinking you’re smarter than everyone else – This one might be my favorite. At the core, this one’s about audacity. The audacity to think that you’ve got everyone fooled; that the rest of the world is bunch of dumb asses compared to you. The audacity to believe that you’re just so much more clever than the rest of us mere mortals; that you think you can pull shit and it’s not going to be discovered eventually. The audacity to think that you’re gonna get away with it all, without consequences… You’re not. No one is. Karma’s a bitch, and I truly believe that sooner or later, all of you corner-cutting, lying, conniving, cheating, diabolical, hypocritical motherfuckers are going to get yours, and get it good. You know who you are…

*But that said, it’s not too late. You can right the ship. You can stop the madness. You can come clean. You can own your shit, endure the fall-out, and grow the hell up. This choice is far less painful than living a fractured life of false pretenses, lies, and illusions.

**Oh, and before anyone’s panties get all bunched up: Simply because I call these things out doesn’t mean they’ve never applied to me. In fact, the REASON I call this shit out is because I want to reduce the frequency with which I sometimes violate these very things myself. Truthful self-appraisal is evidence of operating from a place of strength. But unfortunatley, this is often nonexistent with chronic sufferers of all of these violations.

See… honesty, humility, transparency, and authenticity. Try these on sometime; the truth might just set you free. Now that’s smart…

Agree or disagree; just no apathy.

Check out Part Two (6-10)

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