Tag / social intelligence

by Tom Leu

Eighty-Seven (87)

Oftentimes, I see things that I suspect others do not see. I notice “communication” happening that isn’t super obvious. I’m tuned-into much of the unspoken, the often-overlooked, the intended or unintended subtleties that fly back-and-forth between people seemingly undetected.

I like to say I work hard to miss less than most. It has its pros and cons. This awareness is a form of social intelligence that many times can be a double-edged sword. I always preach about the power of human relations awareness, but sometimes awareness is inconvenient and uncomfortable. It can be exhausting because it can’t be shut off. There’s indeed a price to pay for this privilege. They do say after all that “ignorance is bliss.”

Sometimes I wish that I was a little less aware. A little more insulated, and a little more ignorant about certain things. Might make life, you know, a little less complex. But then again, is that a good thing?

Stay tuned-in…

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by Tom Leu

Sixty-Two (62)

I’m realizing that I’ve been doing what others call “social documentary” for several years now.  As a writer and photographer, I deliberately intend to capture the world’s intricacies, uniqueness, and challenges in order to raise awareness and promote more incisive perspective. My goal has always been to miss less than most and capture humanity in its truest, most unguarded forms.

Here’s my formula: impactful Social Documentary = insightful Social Psychology + applied Social Intelligence. To successfully document the real-world in real-time requires that the documenter have high-levels of both social intelligence, along with a better than basic understanding of social psychological principles simultaneously. This is necessary to skillfully navigate the complex landscape of societal interactions with all types of different people, in all types of differing social circumstances. This combination makes the daunting task of “seeing things” more clear and consistent.

The world is a beautiful place. Even that which is not so beautiful can serve a greater purpose: to help, to encourage, to offer insights, and to give hope to others. Get out there and “see” more of it, more often…

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by Tom Leu

Thirty-Three

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8 Steps to Get What You Want:

  1. Know exactly what it is you’re after and why. More Clarity = Less Chaos. It doesn’t have to be just one thing, but it does have to be clearly your thing(s).
  2. Be sure that what you want is something you’re both passionate about, AND have a legitimate talent for. Passion only = a hobby. Talent only = a job. Both = a calling. Get honest, and don’t bullshit yourself.
  3. Be able to help solve others’ problems with your passion and talent. Everyone’s favorite subject is themselves. So, at the core, your offering has to be about them; not you.
  4. Be willing and able to consistently work extremely hard despite how you feel at any given moment. I don’t care what anyone says, working toward “success” is fucking hard work. Chuck the excuses, and DO the work required to kick ass.
  5. Be willing and able to consistently work extremely smart. Always be learning new strategies and implementing new ideas to get farther, faster. If you think you’ve arrived… you definitely haven’t.
  6. Master the art and science of Communichology™ by knowing when and how to speak up, when to shut up, and how to do both professionally and with integrity ongoing. Copious amounts of self-awareness, social and emotional intelligences are non-negotiable skills sets to seek and master.
  7. Be actively assessing where and what you need recovery from, and where you need to improve… and we all need it somewhere, sometimes. And then commit to doing what needs to be done to fucking overcome and rise above.
  8. Repeat #1-8.

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