Psychology

The Realization

The realization… that your “voice” isn’t being heard. The realization… that your ideas are as important as anyone else’s. The realization… that everyone’s favorite subject is themselves. The realization… that this reality will remain until an audience is cultivated.... Read More »
Tom Leu | 30 October 2016 | Psychology | No Comments   

The Loud Talker

Ah yes, the “loud-talker” in public… you know who I’m talking about… hopefully it’s not you. This is an interesting breed of apparently oblivious (though not always), self-indulgent gems who make it their mission to ensure EVERYONE within earshot... Read More »
Tom Leu | 01 September 2016 | Psychology | No Comments   

Why Your Band Won’t Make It

(and what you can do about it…) The Musician’s Corner® > Psychology for Success In Music FYI – This post is long. It’s a rare exception to my typical Get In-Get Out blogging format. Know that upfront and decide whether or not to invest... Read More »
Thomas Leu | 21 February 2016 | Psychology, Rock 'n Roll | 5 Comments   

Audacity of Certainty

Are you capable of being wrong? No, I mean really capable of saying “I got that wrong, I missed the boat on that one, I got some bad information, I blew that, I’m promptly removing my head from my... Read More »
Tom Leu | 16 December 2014 | Psychology | 2 Comments   

The Hard Way

Pointing fingers and shirking responsibility. Defensiveness. Denial. Avoidance. Resisting change. Being self-centered vs. selfless. Taking vs. giving. Telling vs. listening. Condescension. Intolerance. Arrogance. Insensitivity. These are the paths of least resistance. The easier things to do. The most predictable... Read More »
Tom Leu | 17 September 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

Thanks, for Nothing

This entire post SHOULD be unnecessary, but unfortunately it’s not. To me, this all goes without saying… But I’m gonna say it anyway in the hopes that even just one person receives this message the way it’s intended. And that... Read More »
Tom Leu | 09 September 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

“Human Relations”… not-so-common-sense

I’ve taught a course for years at the college called “Human Relations.” The course is often misunderstood at the outset by both students AND staff because the title is so obviously deceptive. Many people zoom right on by the... Read More »
Tom Leu | 28 August 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

Tool IQ

In the very popular Tool Time series (pats self on back), I call out the nine parts of the “RPM” approach to avoid being a “tool” most of the time. Here is a self-survey to assess your potential toolness. Answer Yes... Read More »
Tom Leu | 28 July 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

Huff and Puff

While purposely rolling your eyes, squirming in your seat, huffing and puffing in apparent strong disagreement with another person’s comments, positions, or points-of-view, at least have the nuts to speak up when asked to share YOUR views. Otherwise, blow... Read More »
Tom Leu | 13 July 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

Reality is Perception

Many years ago, one of my mentors used to tell me that "the world is as you are, not as it is…" Read More »
Thomas Leu | 06 April 2014 | Psychology, Recovery | 1 Comment   

Nice Wins!

It’s not complicated. It’s not impossible. But it is an inside job. Being “nice” is a lost art among many. Too many believe this is an outdated, unnecessary, and useless way to live. I disagree. “But you’re not always... Read More »
Tom Leu | 01 April 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

The Opposite of Knee-Jerk

Stimulus = what happens to us. Response = what we do next. The “freedom” in between as the picture here illustrates also goes by another name called “communication skills.” And there’s a “big ass gap” between those who are... Read More »
Tom Leu | 10 March 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

the talk shiFt Top 10: Part Two

The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part Two)… Violations & Absurdities >> Part One (1-5) 6. Suspension of Disbelief – This is it’s own post… likely even its own book one day. Many folks believe in fairly tales. The internet is a... Read More »
Tom Leu | 01 March 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

the talk shiFt Top 10: Part One

The talk shiFt Top 10 (Part One)… Violations and Absurdities >> Part Two (6-10) 1. Offended by “strong language” – It’s not a matter of IF you use strong language or not, it’s a matter of whether strong language... Read More »
Tom Leu | 16 February 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   

Avoid-Dance

235″I don’t want to go there; I don’t want to talk about that…” I hear this quite a bit within the different aspects of my work. The frequency of this isn’t surprising, but the high price we pay for... Read More »
Tom Leu | 21 January 2014 | Psychology, Recovery | No Comments   

The Allure of Laugh

The following is an excerpt from my keynote speaking presentation of the same name: Laughter, it’s alluring. It pulls people in. It gets attention… We all love to laugh, but did you know there’s something called “laughter yoga?” I... Read More »
Tom Leu | 07 January 2014 | Psychology | No Comments   
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